Let’s be honest—some of us didn’t marry a partner. We married a project. A man we thought would grow, evolve, and rise to the occasion. But instead, we’ve found ourselves carrying the weight of a relationship that feels more like parenting than partnership.
You’re not crazy for feeling drained. You’re not wrong for wanting more. And you’re definitely not alone.
You got married because it felt like the next step. Because people kept asking, “When’s the wedding?” Because other couples made it seem like marriage would fix the loneliness, the instability, the fear of being left behind. But now you’re waking up next to someone who doesn’t pour into you, doesn’t lead, doesn’t build. He’s not your husband—he’s your dependent.
You’ve vented. You’ve cried. You’ve prayed. You’ve hoped. But nothing changes. And deep down, you know why: you’ve been doing all the work. Financially. Emotionally. Spiritually. You’ve become the backbone of a relationship that was never balanced to begin with.
But here’s the part that’s hard to admit: you stayed. You stayed because you didn’t want to start over. You stayed because you didn’t want to be judged. You stayed because you thought love meant enduring anything—even when it was slowly breaking you.
Sis, love is not supposed to feel like survival.
You deserve a partner who meets you where you are. Who sees your strength and doesn’t lean on it to avoid growing. Who doesn’t just take from your cup, but fills it too.
This isn’t about blame. This is about truth. And the truth is: you can’t heal in a place that keeps wounding you.
So ask yourself—Is this the life God called me to live? Or is this the life I settled for out of fear, pressure, or comfort?
You don’t need to explain your truth to anyone. But you do need to live it.