Sometimes you see someone online and think, “Hey, I see you. Cool.” So you send a lil friend request. No big deal, right? But suddenly, sis acting like you just hacked her phone, tracked her location, and applied for a mortgage in her name. Like… girl, it was a button. A tap. A digital wave. Not a proposal, not a subpoena, and definitely not a spiritual ambush. The way some women get defensive over a simple gesture is wild. It’s giving paranoia. It’s giving trauma. It’s giving “log off and touch grass.” Better yet—touch the Word.
Because when your first instinct is to block, blast, and call it creepy, maybe it’s not about the request. Maybe it’s about what’s going on inside. That’s not discernment, that’s damage. And damage needs healing. Not everyone is out to get you. Some people are just being social, curious, or kind. Maybe they liked your vibe. Maybe they saw something in you worth connecting with. Maybe they were just bored and scrolling. Either way, it’s not that deep.
But if your walls are so high that even a friend request feels like a threat, it might be time to check your heart. Ask yourself: Why does everything feel like an attack? Why am I so quick to assume the worst? That kind of energy doesn’t protect you—it isolates you. It keeps you guarded, bitter, and low-key exhausted. And let’s be honest, sis… that’s not cute. That’s not healed. That’s not holy.
So instead of dragging folks in your group chat, maybe drag yourself to church. Instead of assuming the worst, assume Jesus is trying to reach you. Instead of rolling your eyes and hitting block, maybe pause and ask, “What am I afraid of?” Because sometimes the thing we’re calling “discernment” is really just fear dressed up in a cute outfit. And fear will have you missing out on genuine connections, divine appointments, and peace.
Come to Jesus, sis. He heals hearts—even the paranoid, dramatic, and overly defensive ones. 💅🏽✝️